Ethical and consensual non-monogamy comes in many forms.
Every relationship is as unique as every person within the relationship.
From open relationships to polyamory to relationship anarchy, subtle nuances can activate the anxiety of rejection in all of us.
“Will I ever really hit a state where I feel comparisons for my partner(s)?”
“Should I ask questions that I really do not want to hear the answers to?”
“Am I over-communicating my thoughts and feelings?”
Your chest is tight, and the idea of another hard conversation feels more like a confrontation than you want.
Black Lotus Counseling is a safe space for you to explore your thoughts and feelings around this topic.
Are you new to ethical and consensual non-monogamy and need a roadmap to understand what you’re feeling?
How do you open up the conversation of ethical and consensual non-monogamy with your current partner or partners?
Are there apprehensions about what it means to live in a relationship with multiple partners?
Do you feel you’ll end up alone and suffering once you open the relationship up?
I’ll help you understand your feelings.
We’ll co-navigate the waters of ethical and consensual non-monogamy.
For example, we can explore what to do if boundaries have been set but violated. Or if boundaries are unclear and you’re unsure how you feel about anything anymore.
Maybe you need help determining if a hierarchical structure is right for your relationship or if there are things you can keep just for the two of you.
What about in public? How do you explain this situation to your extended family, friends, or colleagues?
What about splitting time? Do you need to pencil things in on your calendars?
How do you know your partners use safe sex practices when you’re not involved?
Perhaps you’re questioning “traditional” definitions of relationships shaped by a mono-normative culture. You’re tired of thinking that one person for the rest of your life is the only way to have a valid relationship. We can examine the thinking attached to the “monogamy is the only option” culture you’ve socialized in most of your life.
Are you having trouble controlling your emotions, like you’re doing and saying the right things, but still feel that green-eyed monster, jealousy, sneaking up on you? I’ll help you learn how to communicate openly with your partner or partners.
Maybe some special circumstances in your life make this difficult, or you are struggling with attachment wounds hidden below the surface. We will examine your attachment and help you overcome the wounds of the past while helping you shape your ideal future.
Black Lotus Counseling welcomes all relationships between consenting adults…
… in the many, many forms in which that may come to us.
If you want to address your own “stuff” so that you can have happier, healthier relationships, I’m here for you!
Reach out today. Call or text me at (484) 599-2640 to schedule a free consultation.